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Remember Reminder #14: Try Not to Worry So Much

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#ememberreminder: Try Not to Worry So Much

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a worrier. 

When I was younger, I worried about getting good grades even though I studied hard. I worried that I wouldn’t be able to make new friends every time we moved. I worried that no matter how hard I tried at anything, I wouldn’t be good enough. I worried that my stuffed animals might come alive at night (silly, I know, but there was this one creepy bear…). 

Becoming an adult and then a parent have really taken those worrying skills up a notch: I worry about money, my career, making ends meet, being able to provide for me and my daughter, Zoey… I worry about my friends, my family, my loved ones… I worry about my future and my happiness… I worry about Zoey’s happiness, her future, her… well, everything.

I think it would be safe to say that the root of all my worries—both then and now—have always been the same:

What if things don’t work out the way I want them to?
What if something bad happens that I have absolutely NO control over?

* * *

It’s late, and I’m laying in bed, awake. Outside my window, I hear a steady stream of rain and the gentle, low rumble of thunder. Their little nighttime dance has been going on for over an hour, and I can tell the center of the storm is almost overhead. 

My room lights up as a streak of lightning flashes, and less than a second later, a clap of thunder booms so loudly the walls around me shake. I sit up in bed quickly, startled by the sound, and—even though the thunder already boomed—I quietly begin to count as I did as a child when lightning would strike. One Mississippi, two Mississippi, three Mississippi…

Before I get to the fourth magnolia state, I hear something, but this time the sound is far from loud: it’s the quick, quiet footfall of my daughter as she runs across our hardwood floor and into my room. Zoey climbs into bed with me and fumbles in the dark, trying to find a hand of mine to hold. She burrows under the blanket and slides over as close to me as possible. 

“There’s nothing to worry about,” I whisper to her. “It’s okay.”

“But the whole apartment shook,” Zoey whispers back, concern lacing her voice. “Did it hit us? Is this the safest place we can be? Will it happen again?”

“Don’t worry, peanut,” I say as I pull her into a hug. “We are safe here.”

Comforted by our closeness and the safety of my arms, Zoey quickly falls back asleep as the storm slowly rolls away. But I am left in the dark, still awake, thinking of the words I’ve just whispered to my daughter:

Don’t worry. We are safe here…

* * *

Our worries manifest themselves from that future place called the unknown, a scary little place that holds tight to our fears. It’s a place that I’ve always lived in, in some way or another, and to be perfectly honest, I don’t want to live there anymore.

Don’t worry. We are safe here…

I think of those words and then of the little girl in my arms, the one who felt safe enough in this very moment that her fears were put to rest, and I have a moment of clarity. Though Zoey is asleep, the lessons she imparts speak loudly in the dark:

When we worry about our future, we steal from the peace of our present.

Just like I’d rather sleep peacefully than toss and turn all night, I’d much rather focus my energy on my perfectly imperfect, safe now than spend my time worrying about a potentially imperfect, scary future. I’d much rather add joy to my life than subtract joy from it.

Because in the end—in some way or another—everything works itself out, just like it did in my childhood:

I made those good grades I worried about getting. I found those new friends I worried about making. I was good enough, even though I worried I wasn’t. The stuffed animals never came to life even though I worried they would (thank goodness).

As Zoey happily sighs in her sleep, I decide that I will try to put aside my fear of the unknown. I will trust that everything will work out. I will choose to believe that my future holds nothing but peace, abundance, and an endless amount of joy.

Don’t you think you should do the same?
So today, remember to try not to worry so much.
Tuck those worries in tight, wish them the sweetest of dreams,
and give them a kiss good night.

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Let me know: Are you a worrier? What can you do to not let your worries get the best of you? What will you stop worrying about today?

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44 thoughts on “Remember Reminder #14: Try Not to Worry So Much

  1. Wow, this is an amazing post, i think its a feeling that a lot of us get in the dark of night. I am definitely a worrier, I have a crazy anxiety disorder though, it kinda goes with the territory. It’s hard not to worry these days though, I hope the next night was a better sleep for you. Thanks for sharing.

  2. This is such a healthy and helpful reminder- I am an over-planner and a worrier! It’s so nice to get my perspective realigned so I can head into the weekend worry-free (or try, at least!)

    Thanks for sharing!

  3. Yes! I am such a worrier too, and it’s so hard when we know we can’t control some of the things that happen to us. But for me, as a Christian, I try to remember that I trust God and know his plans are best. So even if I am scared about the unknown, I don’t really have a good reason to worry.

  4. This is a great post. I am a constant worrier and it drives my husband nuts! Yoga seems to help, but it is difficult to fit in time to work, take car of my family, and myself. I think as women, we tend to put everyone else first and sometimes neglect ourselves. But, we can’t serve from an empty cup!

  5. So sweet! I quit worrying so much when I read the verse, “Worry about nothing, instead pray about everything.” Sometimes a simple reminder that no matter what the circumstances, God is in control!

  6. I have always been a HUGE worrier! Mostly about time. How long will something take? What time do we need to be there? What time do we need to leave? I still keep those things in mind, but I don’t stress about them too much anymore.

  7. I am right there with you. Many bloggers seem to be on the worry kick lately. There must be something in the air. I have read a lot lately on how to combat concern. Thank you for this positive message and reminder. 🙂

  8. I’m most definitely a worrier and it is hard because it can suck me from the peace of the moment, but I try to help it with journaling and I’m a faithful person so I try to give it up to God a little bit too.

  9. I worry about things that are three steps ahead of where I am. Before becoming a stay at home mom, I worked as a production planner at a facility. The “long vision” actually helped me be very good at my job. However, in my personal life it causes me so much stress because I’m worrying about things that haven’t happened yet.

  10. I wish oh how I wish that I wasn’t a worrier and my son wasn’t but he has severe OCD and I have bipolar and anxiety disorder *bangs head against desk*
    We are always working on ways to breathe calm into our worlds and others. My son is such an amazing support system for his little friends. I absolutely adore watching him run to the aide of his friends who are in a tizzy over the small things. “Just breathe” he says, “It’ll be ok. Think of where you’re at. You’re safe. Count 1, 2, 3”. Wise beyond his years that one.
    I often tell him that he’s going to help so many people.
    Love this post.

  11. This is beautiful <3 I am a worrier by nature, too, and it's become somewhat amplified over the years because of anxiety. But you're so very right–worrying takes away the peace of the present. And it certainly doesn't change the situation any.

    I love what you told your daughter. Whether or not you believed it to be true, in that moment it reassured her…sometimes it's all we ever need 🙂

  12. I also have a crazy anxiety disorder but mindfulness changed my life. I remember reading a ruby wax book and one quote in particular etched itself into my brain “thoughts are not facts” and I realised that there is no point in worrying about things that you can’t control.

  13. Great post! I used to worry a lot! I think as I’ve gotten older I’ve gotten a lot better. The worrying about people not liking me used to be something that consumed me. Not so much anymore.

  14. I worry that I’m forgetting something. I worry that there’s too much going on in my head to get to everything, and that the thing I forget for sure won’t be the drycleaning, but something way more important. Something for my kids.

    There’s safety in proximity or even contact with someone we love. A calming effect, and Zoey found it in your words and your hand. Your closeness and reassurance. I find it in your words, too, and relative proximity, that living as we do, sort of wide open to all the vibes, is still sustainable.

    When we find ourselves sitting without worry, we should recognize why. I’d imagine we’d see much more trust in ourselves than at other times. There’s peace in trust, from a mom or dad or even in the thought from within that everything’s going to be all right.

  15. Love this post. I am such a worrier, and it has only gotten worse now that I have a daughter! This is such a great reminder to not let the worrying about the future ruin the present.

  16. I’m definitely a worrier. That’s something I’ve been working on for awhile. I try to tell myself that whether I worry about it or not, the outcome will be the outcome. I’m just causing myself unnecessary stress by thinking of all the “what if’s”. I still have a long way to go, but I’m doing better with trying to not worry as much!

  17. I’ve been a worrier for a long time and it caused me nothing but stress! So I’m trying to live each day with positivity instead…enjoying the present and making the most out of it 🙂

    Another great post Corey!

  18. I’m definitely a worrier. It’s so hard to just live life. The quote about worrying stealing from the present is so true. I can’t enjoy life if I’m worrying about things 24/7 when I should just be confident that God will work my life how it is supposed to be. If I come across strife, a new and greater door will just open.

  19. I’m a worrier by nature, but I think I’m finally getting better at trusting and letting go of the future…sometimes. I love the quote about worrying stealing peace from the present. It’s so true! If you can, do something about your worries. If you CAN’T do anything about whatever you’re worrying about, then worrying doesn’t help, so let it go. This is SO much easier said than done, but reminding myself of the truth of it helps bit by bit to let go of fear.

  20. My worries have definitely calmed with age and security. But I am raising a very fearful daughter, whose fears I fight with every day. I long to give her security and peace of mind to lighten her load as she walks through this world.

  21. I am a worrier. It makes me feel like I’m “in control” when really I’m not and, like you said, it’s only stealing the peace from my present. It’s something I’m trying to work on and sometimes I do better than others. 🙂

  22. Thank you for this gentle reminder. I’m a worrier and overthinker and no matter how hard I try to fix this, it seems to be deeply rooted. I need to be more mindful of this.

  23. I also suffer from over worrying. It also seems that anything I imagine is usually worse than the actual results and completely defies the most logical result. So much to think about! Great post!

  24. This is such a good reminder! I can be quite a worrier too, but I just need to remember that in one way or another, it will all work out!

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